It’s kind of weird. I think of being naked as so normal, so comfortable and natural. It’s rarely sexual unless I make it that way. Everyone may have seen me naked before, but it’s a controlled-naked, it’s not even vulnerable-naked. I’ve always seen it as defiant-naked, strong-naked, dgaf-naked. It can become desirable-naked, or seductive-naked, but it’s still only what I make it. I have agency over the intentions that come from my body; it’s why I take self-portraits, and rarely model unless it’s for someone who understands the importance of this agency.
I love my naked body like few other things in the world. It is mine, to do with as I please. It carries me through this life and has allowed me many things I didn’t expect. It changes and morphs into new versions of itself and I love all of them. I decorate her with tattoos and take her out dancing. I could never be ashamed or embarrassed of her. My naked body is not all I am, but she is an equal part of that whole that makes up the best of me. I can only be what I am, and my body keeps all of that safe and hidden. I’m not exposed or exploited when I am naked. That would be applying someone else’s expectations onto my body, and she hates that. It only makes me more defiant. When I am naked I am not brave or vulnerable or there for you. When I am naked, I am divine.
A reminder to self.
1:57 am |
September 6 2014
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next time you hear a white person say “well if black people can say the n-word why can’t i???” you should ask them “why do you want to?” and listen as they try not to say “black people have something of their own that I am not entitled to and that hurts my feelings and makes me feel inferior”
I rarely come across this kind of white person (or, more likely, I’m outspoken enough that they don’t say it to my face) but I’m remembering this.
2:31 am |
August 23 2014
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A silent protest in Love Park, downtown Philadelphia orchestrated by performance artists protesting the murder of Michael Brown in Ferguson. The onslaught of passerby’s wanting to take photos with the statue exemplifies the disconnect in American society. Simply frame out the dead body, and it doesn’t exist.
Here are some observations by one of the artists involved in the event:
I don’t know who any of these folks are.
They were tourists I presume.
But I heard most of what everything they said. A few lines in particular stood out. There’s one guy not featured in the photos. His friends were trying to get him to join the picture but he couldn’t take his eyes off the body.
"Something about this doesn’t feel right. I’m going to sit this one out, guys." "Com’on man… he’s already dead."
There were a billion little quips I heard today. Some broke my heart. Some restored my faith in humanity. There was an older white couple who wanted to take a picture under the statue.
The older gentleman: “Why do they have to always have to shove their politics down our throats.” Older woman: “They’re black kids, honey. They don’t have anything better to do.”
One woman even stepped over the body to get her picture. But as luck would have it the wind blew the caution tape and it got tangle around her foot. She had to stop and take the tape off. She still took her photo.
There was a guy who yelled at us… “We need more dead like them. Yay for the white man!”
"One young guy just cried and then gave me a hug and said ‘thank you. It’s nice to know SOMEBODY sees me.’
6:48 pm |
August 19 2014
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“You realize that everything the police are doing in Ferguson is carefully calculated, right? They’re purposely turning peaceful protests into riots. They’re purposely committing violence to incite violence. From saying ‘We won’t be answering 911 calls,’ which is a very clever way to set themselves up to be able to say, ‘We were afraid for our safety - any call could really be an ambush, our lives were in danger’ right down to the camouflage and the military tanks and wearing more body armor than a soldier in a war zone. Its exactly why they’re going for a media blackout - yet allowing certain photos through - they WANT you to see their tanks. They want you to see their riot gear. They WANT you to see a war-zone. They’re trying to sell the world the idea that this community is inherently and constantly a source of violence and turmoil - they want you to think that they [the police] are being attacked daily in a place so vicious they need full body armor. You know why? Because then, at the end of the day, you might just be able to believe the story they’re going to spin. They’re going to tell you that this (white) officer goes to work in this war zone every day - that he spends every working moment in constant fear for his life. They’re going to tell you that Michael Brown attacked this officer. And then they’re going to bring up everything that has happened in the aftermath and try to use it to convince you that he shot that little boy because he was afraid for his life. They’re setting up a defense. You mark my words, they’re trying to set up a defense.”
— My mom’s take on what’s going on in Ferguson (via actualbanshee)
10:32 pm |
August 18 2014
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yo can I drop some advice all you kids trying to get entry level jobs need to learn? I learned it the hard way and now I shall impart that to you.
when you see this shit, that goes “you need like 10 years experience and all this other qualifications nobody with all that would ever apply for a job like this with”, that means one thing: they are weeding out people who don’t believe they can achieve that level. They go “sigh, I can’t even compete, fuck it.” and don’t apply, saving the company the trouble.
What you, as a fresh new student, need to do- is apply anyway with a Luffy-like optimism that you will get that fucking job!! You don’t have a million years experience BUT YOU’LL TRY AND NEVER GIVE UP ETC. You write an opener letter with that in it, submit your shit, and get that goddamn job because they just found somebody who’s willing to give it a try anyway, who has the confidence and the ability to play with the big boys and they will train you to become a master because fresh meat is vital to the industry.
tldr: APPLY ANYWAY, YOUNG GRASSHOPPER
i really wish i’d read this three months ago
to those who are still looking for their first job: it wouldn’t hurt to try. the worst thing that can happen is that you get a “no”
So, really interesting statistic that just came up in hiring diversity training at work: women will typically only apply to a position if they feel they meet 100% of the requirements. Men will typically apply if they feel they meet just 60%.
And guess what? They still get hired, because a lot of job descriptions are total garbage. These aren’t crafted masterpieces handed down from the divine goddess of Human Resources. These are things that were thrown together at the last minute 3 years ago by some manager with too many more important things to do, and they’ve been used untouched ever since.
Think about this, and think about those numbers, ladies. Think long and hard about this statistic next time you are looking at a job description and telling yourself that you can’t cut it. You probably can, and applying is free.
(P.S.: I’m happy to give resume advice to people - especially new college grads in the tech industry. That’s the field I know and do interviews in; I’m not sure if my advice would be as applicable elsewhere.)
I recently applied for a promotion where I met maybe 80% of the qualifications. A year ago I wouldn’t have done that. But I read that statistic and said, “Fuck it, I’ll do it anyway.”
Still waiting to hear if I got it but that statistic, be it true or not, made me want to take the chance.
"Women will typically only apply to a position if they feel they meet 100% of the requirements. Men will typically apply if they feel they meet just 60%.” I definitely fall prey to this. Fuck it. I’m even remotely qualified? I’m applying.
(Source: bearvstheworld, via allowedtoapply)
4:41 pm |
August 14 2014
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Slave gravesite in New York City
“SOMETHING YOUR TOUR GUIDE MIGHT NOT TELL YOU:
The heart of NYC’s Financial District is built on a huge 18th century African Burial Ground. Some 419 Africans were discovered in 1991, a large portion women and children.
The burial ground extends from Broadway Southward under City Hall, and almost to the site of the former World Trade Center. It is believed that there are as many as 20,000 slavery-era Africans in graves under the buildings in Lower Manhattan.
Abolish historical amnesia and ponder for a moment the fact that this financial epicenter of the world is built on slavery, oppression, and death.”
Literally, and daily.
3:11 am |
July 14 2014
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because it helps to remember this every now and then.
Also did anybody else notice that they removed the “Elton John’s AIDS foundation” logo from Miley’s picture? Fuckin’ agendas everywhere….
I literally threw a mini fit
The fact that they even touched up the woman in the BACKGROUND of the Selena Gomez pic is crazy.
I’ve said this every time it comes on my dash but please also notice that a lot of the women get photoshopped lighter.
And that´s the reason why nobody should try to be that thin, because that thin doesn´t exist in reality.
THIS IS SO SATISFYING TO LOOK AT I LITERALLY STARED AT THIS FOR LIKE 12 MINUTEs
there’s so much racism here with how they change rihanna’s nose
It’s so important for people, especially teenage girls, to remember that even the allegedly candid pictures like these are being altered drastically, which means it’s ridiculous to compare yourself to pictures of women who have not only paid thousands of dollars to look the way they do, but they don’t even look like that in real life!
This is mind-blowing. Even though I *know* female celebrities are photoshopped to high heaven I’m kind of shocked (and relieved) every time I see evidence of it.
(Source: bright-happy-healthy, via malcolmjamalwarlock)
9:46 pm |
May 10 2014
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it’s sad that all they have to do is show our faces in order to strike fear into other people. that we don’t even have to try and look menacing for someone to find us scary looking and worth being shot or hunted down like an animal. we could be the most loving fathers, brightest teachers/students, and they’ll still figure out a way to make it seem as though we had every bit coming to us for existing while black.
(Source: systematicgenocide, via jessehimself)
1:38 am |
April 16 2014
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