“Don’t allow your wounds to transform you into someone you’re not.”
— Paulo Coelho (via youngfolksociety)
— Paulo Coelho (via youngfolksociety)
I SEE YOU BIG BOY
my journey of self love led me to this fatkini début earlier this year. i didn’t have a fatkini to wear (i`m not really sure that i’m a fatkini kind of gay, glitter short shorts and titz out is more my speed) but i worked with what i had (as per) and i looked damn fine. this was the day i finally gave the public world the pleasure of gazing upon my hot juicy beach bod and i felt really scared while i was doing it. since then i’ve been getting more comfortable with it and now i’d pretty much walk around naked if i could because i’m fucking over hiding my body to make other people comfortable. for my entire life, i’ve felt so much pressure from the world around me to conceal and hide my body and i internalized it in really weird and fucked up ways, it feels really powerful and healing to just do my thing now. i hope if you want to do this too, you try it out! i used to wear hoodies all summer and now i’m all thunder thighs and double chins and loving ever minute of it.
i just try to remember this about the haters: they are just sad. their words and responses are products of a body shaming culture that is racist, classist, ableist and deeply misogynist (and cissexist, duh). this is the culture that prevails when i continue to feel ashamed and cover my body, this is the culture that prevails when i am invisible. but most of all, sad, body shaming haters are totally fucking irrelevant to my fabulous obese lifestyle.
I love this.
Just clicked on the #pro-life tag here, and learned quite a few things. The first of which was: never ever click on the #pro-life tag.
God damn it, I’m so tempted!
I approve anything that makes Rick Perry looks like he has been gene-spliced with Jackie Mason.
A life sized Barbie doll has drawn attention to body image issues and eating disorders. Created by Galia Slayen using wood, chicken wire, and paper mache, the six foot tall Barbie (complete with her smaller counterpart’s extreme proportions) made an appearance on MSNBC’s Today Show to highlight and promote National Eating Disorder Awareness Week (NEDAW). Slayen offered on Today: “My goal of [constructing the life sized] Barbie is to create discussion. You can’t ignore her.”
“This medical definition is certainly not what’s intended in contemporary uses of the word. If I say “I saw Zombieland and it was totally retarded,” I am not saying that I think the movie had a low IQ and I observed significant limitations in adaptive functioning. (That doesn’t even make sense.)…
[six panel comic strip. the first panel features a balding man facing away from the readers view, knocking at a door. the second panel features a man poking out the door asking “What?”. in the third panel, the balding man says to the man behind the door “I want to talk about your relationship with jesus…”. In the fourth panel, the man behind the door angrily yells “Leave us alone already!”. In the fifth panel, the man door is slammed shut. In the fifth panel, the man that was in the door is hopping back into bed. a man with long hair, facial hair, and a crown of thorns (jesus) asks “Who was that?”. The man who was standing at the door says in reply “Nothing sweetie.”
This weekend I was told a story which, although I’m kind of ashamed to admit it, because holy shit is it ever obvious, is kind of blowing my mind.
A friend of a friend won a free consultation with Clinton Kelly of What Not To Wear, and she was very excited, because she has a plus-size body, and…
1. Never apologize for acting on your instincts.
Listening to your body then taking action on what you hear
is the hallmark of heroic people.
2. Never apologize for all the tears you’ve cried.
Crying cleanses the soul. Shoot for once a month.
Even if it’s just a brief mist at a tender moment in a sad movie.
3. Never apologize for anything in your resume/portfolio.
If you feel the need to do so, it probably doesn’t belong
in there in the first place.
4. Never apologize for asking for what you need.
The answer to every question you DON’T ask is always no.
5. Never apologize for asking questions.
When you stop asking questions,
you don’t just run out of answers you run out of hope.
6. Never apologize for asserting yourself.
The word assert comes from the Latin asserere, which means,
to claim, maintain or affirm. And that’s exactly what you’re entitled to:
Your opinion. Your belief. Your say.
Let nobody take it away from you.
7. Never apologize for being a health nut.
Next time someone says, What are you, on a diet or something?
look them straight in the eye and say,
Yeah you got a problem with that?
Then, when they back down, you go right back to eating your tofu.
8. Never apologize for being a newbie.
Everyone great chess master was once a beginner.
9. Never apologize for being early for an appointment.
In the history of Corporate America, no employee has ever been
fired for consistently arriving ten minutes early to every meeting.
10. Never apologize for being funny.
The world is too damn serious. We need you. Seriously.
11. Never apologize for being human.
Once you do, you’re no longer human you’re a cyborg.
12. Never apologize for being passionate.
Unless you’re passionate about stabbing strangers with
broken Coke bottles.
13. Never apologize for being smart.
That’s the ONE thing the government, the media
(and every other entity that’s trying to control you)
is terrified of: Smart people who take action. Be one of those people.
14. Never apologize for being the age that you are.
It’s just a number. A chicken ain’t nothing but a bird, as my Grandpa likes to say.
15. Never apologize for breaking a rule that isn’t really a rule.
Be proud of yourself for being a rule breaker.
Then go break another one.
16. Never apologize for calling bullshit on someone.
Especially when nobody else is the room is going to do
it and this person REALLY needs to be taken to task.
17. Never apologize for demanding respect.
If you’ve demonstrated that you deserve respect by giving it to others first,
you’re good to go.
18. Never apologize for disagreeing.
Especially if you do so respectfully. On the other hand,
if you’re disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing,
or because of your pathological need to be right,
that’s a different story.
19. Never apologize for expressing yourself.
That’s all “leadership” is:
The full, free expression of your truth.
Don’t say you’re sorry for that.
20. Never apologize for falling in love.
Your heart’s calling the shots.
21. Never apologize for falling OUT of love.
Your heart’s still calling the shots
even when you throw up an air ball.
22. Never apologize for getting something off your chest.
That which you suppress will find a home in your body.
And then it will trash the place.
23. Never apologize for giving it your best shot.
As my Grandpa also reminded me,
“You do the best you can with as many as you can.
24. Never apologize for growing up privileged.
As long as you scrap the entitlement attitude,
remain grateful for everything you’ve ever been given
and respect the life situation of those who are less fortunate, it’s all good.
25. Never apologize for having an overabundance of love in your life.
Instead, circulate what you’ve got. Pay it forward.
Share it. People need it.
26. Never apologize for lack of experience.
Instead, share your Learning Plan; demonstrate
your dedication to lifelong learning and practice
becoming the world’s expert at learning from your experiences.
27. Never apologize for lack of information.
Ignorance is acceptable. Staying ignorant, however, is stupid.
28. Never apologize for liking stupid movies.
Movie snobs annoy me. Some of my favorite movies
are among the most ridiculous films ever made.
So I love Hangover. Sue me
29. Never apologize for living your truth.
Few things in the world are more important.
30. Never apologize for looking out for yourself.
Self-preservation is a primary driver of human behavior.
It’s how we’re wired.
31. Never apologize for loving yourself.
If you do, you probably don’t love yourself as much as you thought.
32. Never apologize for making a decision from the heart.
Remember: It’s not thee truth it’s YOUR truth.
33. Never apologize for needing alone time.
Solitude is soil. Solitude is medicine.
And if you don’t get your fix every day, your life will suffer.
34. Never apologize for needing to use the bathroom.
Yesterday a woman in my class walked out of the
room and actually said to the instructor,
I have to pee, I’m SO sorry. Unbelievable.
35. Never apologize for not being there when someone called.
You have a life, too. People can’t expect you to wait eagerly
by the phone all hours of the day.
36. Never apologize for not embracing someone else’s agenda.
Especially if that agenda robs you of your true talent.
37. Never apologize for occasional absentmindedness.
Everyone’s brain farts.
Be well & Be good to each other.